Thursday, March 02, 2006

GRRRRRRRRRRR. My father drives me absolutely nuts. To the point, really, where I can't stand him. My boyfriend and a few other people I know have lost their fathers, so yes, I know I'm lucky to even have one and should just appreciate it. Also the reason I don't bitch about this to anyone, so I thought this would be a good outlet.

I am so sick of being made to feel so guilty that I'm better off than my parents (just by my dad, my mom is happy for me). It doesn't matter how many times I tell him I don't make as much money as he thinks I do, he still insists on making me feel guilty for ever purchase and everything I've gotten. And it's not like I skimp on presents and stuff for my family - I don't, at all! It's just that I don't get them one of everything I get myself. I get a new car (used, but new for me)? He makes a comment about how nice it must be to be able to afford that. I get a new pair of shoes? My mom would probably really enjoy a pair too. I go out to eat? It'd be nice if the family could go, too.

My family isn't living on the street or struggling to eat or anything. They just don't have the newest and nicest of everything. And I don't either! I make just enough that I can treat myself once in a while, but I can't afford to buy them a new car or new house or all new wardrobes, which my father seems to think I should be doing.

I know this doesn't sound like much, but year after year after year it's become so draining.

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

I sympathize. My brother is mentally ill (currently in an "insane asylem," whatever the PC phrase is these days), and for quite some time he was homeless in another stat (after he refused to go for a medical exam so his SSI could be renewed). Meanwhile, I was a single mother working my ass off for my paycheck, and yet EVERYTHING I did my mother had to compare - I went to McDonald's for lunch? Poor brother probably didn't even HAVE lunch today. Go visit my parents on Christmas? She wonders if brother even knows it's Christmas. Bought a new outfit for work? She wondered if brother even had ANY clothes to wear, much less any NEW clothes.

I have no advice for you other than try to ignore it; just wanted you to know you're not alone - and your feelings are completely understandable. Good luck.

Anonymous said...

*asylum, damn.