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My boyfriend and I have been together for over 5 years. We have a wonderful, loving relationship and we are always honest with each other. I am concerned about one major issue that I cannot reslove and we don't seem to resolve as a gay couple. He is an exhibitionist and I love that part of him. He likes to show off his hot bod in digital clips, etc. The problem is that he also likes to get on the Internet with his webcam and perform for other guys. I have told him that I do not like this and in most cases he has complied. Once he learned of my objection, he has tried to stop, but I know that now and then the "addiction" gets the best of him. My rationale to objecting to this is that when you share yourself sexually with another person, it is the same as "cheating." I know as he does this he types messages to certain people and once was even on the phone with someone. With everything else almost perfect with our loving relationship, do I have reason to be concerned? Should I allow him this habit and forget it? BTW, I even tried it with him once, but it is just not my bag (so to speak). Any advice? Thanks.
2 comments:
You have every reason to be concerned. If this is not a source of income for him than this would be considered cheating. He's really not listening to your feelings about the situation and your making up exscuses for him(addiction). He should be addicted to you and only you. Just because he has a "hot bod" should not give him the okay to do things like this. It's only okay if you allow these things to be okay. I hope your doing your job to keep him happy because he's cravin the outside attention.
May I suggest... and I'm not trying to be funny here... a sex club? A place where both of you could go to get his exhibitionist fix? Of course activities there would be stricly limited to both of you-- no third parties. Or maybe a "group ativity" at your home? Or you could simply invite someone over to watch.
I can understand if those suggestions don't appeal to you. One thing about guys who have hot bodies (str8 or gay) is that they like to sexually enjoy their physique vicariously through another person. Not a bad thing, just how it sometimes is. Maybe propose video taping yourlseves having sex-- create your own "homemade porn" to supply the illusion that he's being watched.
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